MARRIAGE COUNSELLING, COUPLES THERAPY & PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT
From experience in my former practices in Singapore and Australia, and indeed in my personal life, I’ve seen how life presents us with limitless opportunities to grow, heal and learn – moving to a new country, retrenchment, marriage, divorce, a new baby, a career change, relationship difficulties, parenting challenges, the loss of a loved one…
LOVE IS THE END GAME
I have learnt that rather than the heady love that has us believing that we are "in love," that true, meaningful and sustainable love for someone comes as a result of respect, delight, responsibility, trust, tenderness, disruption, energy, freedom, reciprocity, resilience, friendship, listening, passion and belief. Love in a relationship is indeed like the last move on a chess board. It's not about immediate gratification. It's the end game - to be relished as a significant milestone.
"Things do not change, we change."
If we have not acquired the coping mechanisms to pull through life's events, we might be overwhelmed with feelings of depression, abandonment, mistrust, anxiety, hurt, anger, inadequacy, low self esteem and so on.
In the safety of a confidential setting, counselling offers us the opportunity to discover our own resources, to rekindle our relationships and to learn the life skills and acquire the relationship allies that help us navigate and thrive through the challenges of life.
I offer one-on-one sessions, offering relationship building blocks to help couples overcome the obstacles that hold them back from experiencing really good relationships.
MARRIAGE AND COUPLES COUNSELLING
MARRIAGE AND COUPLES COUNSELLING
Sustaining successful relationships
A relationship that hits troubled water can have a negative pervasive effect across the lives of the couple as well as those affected by the relationship - including the social and professional environments in which they move. Research shows that strong, stable relationships and role modelling are key to a healthy society. Counselling support will not only benefit the couple, but also their children – helping the family system to establish boundaries and skills that will help them navigate through the ups and downs of relating.
Here, marriage and relationship support is unbiased and open-minded, aimed at providing help and information that can help you to establish and sustain a successful relationship with your partner regardless of the stage or nature of your relationship. Common areas covered in couple’s counselling include infidelity, abuse, multi-cultural challenges, betrayal/trust issues, obsessive behaviour, boundary issues, conflict resolution, intimacy and sexual issues, communication difficulties, parenting and financial matters.
Confidential, supportive, respectful
I am a Relationship Counsellor with a Master’s Degree in Counselling from the University of South Australia and certified practitioner in Accelerated Behavioural Cognitive Therapy (ABCT) which helps combat depression, anxiety and stress. I am a Certified Relationship Educator (CRE).
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“Relationships need a true north, a heading that incorporates the wants, dreams and intentions of both personalities, providing a pulling force packed with direction and purpose.”
Lauren recently published her book on successful relationships
My first book called ‘Wanted – How to Create a Relationship that Really Works' has recently been published. It focusses on allies, opponents and the skills needed in a relationship and is a great back-up tool to keep us on track in relationships. Now available through Amazon.com in both paperback and kindle. Plus find FREE downloadable questionnaires and exercises from my book at my author's website: www.lsclucas.com.
Authored by an accomplished couples counsellor, Wanted provides the blueprint on how to be your best self in relationship. Aimed at both men and women at any stage of a relationship, Wanted is a practical, insightful guide to keep in your bedside drawer, to pick up whenever you want some answers. Perhaps you're derailed by your partner's uncharacteristic behaviour or concerned that your relationship is becoming stale. Maybe you feel short of a communication skill or two or you fear you're losing your partner's love. Whatever your reason, when it comes to relationships, this guide will maintain its relevance. True to its title, Wanted details the importance of feeling wanted and demonstrating our want for one another in a relationship. It challenges you to consider whether you would want you and if your answer is "no' or half-hearted, Wanted proffers the changes that are necessary to acquire a healthy self-esteem. A healthy relationship with yourself is a continuous theme throughout the book, nudging you towards self-awareness and competency in a partnership. Through the often sad and sometimes funny real-life narratives of the author's relationships and those of her clients, you're sure to find meaningful connections to your own journey. If, like many people, you struggle with challenges such as mistrust, ongoing conflict, poor communication and weak boundaries, you'll find the tools herein to turn your relationship around. You'll learn how to master what the author calls 'allies' - of which there are 14; trust, respect, listening, reciprocity, tenderness, resilience, freedom, delight, energy, disruption, responsibility, friendship, belief and passion. You'll also recognise the "opponents" that disable relationships and come to know the toxic power that comes with being passive aggressive. Real in substance, Wanted navigates delicate subjects including how to recognise when a relationship is over, reflection points to find closure and guidance on how to break-up with compassion and grace. The author tackles the sometimes awkward subject of sex and intimacy in a way that promotes open sharing, vulnerable disclosure and enticing discovery with thought-provoking exercises and questionnaires adding to the impact of key chapters. Finally, Wanted offers a unique understanding of love and argues that love should be our endgame rather than the elusive experience we often seek at the outset of a relationship.
"I found myself tucking away interesting nuggets of insight and advice to use in areas where my own relationship might be lacking. If you don’t find yourself nodding along to the author’s discernment of how relationships can break down, smile at her recognition of some of your partner’s behaviour patterns, or wince at an example or two of your own, then you’ve attained that rare thing - the perfect relationship." Paul Richardson, Bloomberg News
"Inspiring, actionable advice to “participate as your best self” in relationships." Kirkus Indie
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